There’s Always a Reason

For the last 2 months, I’d been seeing someone. 

He is kind and passionate, honest and caring. 

He is also not my person. 

These moments are always hard. The shift from thinking someone could be in your life for a long while to realizing that they definitely won’t be often comes with discomfort and disappointment. 

In these moments, the most helpful thing for me is to reflect on the lessons learned along the way. 

I’m lucky, because with him it’s easy. 

He showed me what it was like to be with someone who took care of me. Someone who sought to make my days a little easier. Someone who preempted my responsibilities and helped to lighten the load. 

He showed me how beautiful it is to be around someone who is in love with life and excited for the day ahead. 

He also showed me how important it is to be fully and completely myself with my partners from day 1. 

For the first time, I made an intentional effort to be the real me before I got too emotionally attached. 

That ‘me’—the real one—is bubbly and outgoing and adventurous. That ‘me’ has lots of friends whose opinions and feedback I value deeply. That ‘me’ is confident and not afraid to show it to those around me. 

That ‘me’ is also not for everyone. 

The more I let him see my true self, the more we began to butt heads. The more I let him see my true self, the more we began to feel tension in our dynamic. 

And that’s okay. 

I’m glad I took the time to let him see my true colors and then stepped back to assess his response. I’m glad my friends, who are always looking out for me, also did the same. 

I had a great time with him. 

Now, it’s time to part ways. 

I wish him all the best. He made an impression I’ll never forget and I’m so glad we crossed paths.