I’m No Longer Calling My Ex an Asshole

It’s a huge turn off for me when a guy refers to his ex-girlfriend as crazy. 

My immediate thought is that this guy is disrespectful and immature. 

In short, it’s a massive red flag. 

It’s embarrassing to admit that I’d been doing the female equivalent this whole time. 

My friends and family know that I went through the ringer with my ex-boyfriend. We endured too many ups and downs to count, and I ultimately came out of that relationship being hugely disappointed, heartbroken, and a wreck. 

In my mind, he was a complete dick and I wasn’t shy about telling people so. 

Maybe it was a form of messed up therapy. Maybe it was my way of getting back at him. Maybe it was an effort to counter the “I love you’s” my brain directed towards him on a daily basis, even long after we parted ways. 

It doesn’t matter—it was also disrespectful and immature. 

How you talk about the people you love, or once loved, matters. Your words don’t only reflect on them, but they reflect on you too—probably even more so. 

Yes, he hurt me, he disappointed me, and ultimately didn’t see the same future for us that I once saw. 

But he’s also a great person who will do anything for the people he loves. He has an energy and enthusiasm for life that is unmatched. He is funny, hardworking, and honest. 

He’s a good person. 

And he deserves to be talked about as one.